Date Abuse / Rape

2011
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Girl sits against brick wall

Dating abuse is just as common a problem as domestic abuse – and it can be just as hurtful and destructive.

Like domestic abuse, dating abuse is a pattern of hurtful behavior that someone uses to try to control their partner — boyfriend or girlfriend – where he or she goes, what she does, who she sees, what she wears. You get the idea.

It isn’t always physical either. Abuse can be verbal, emotional, or sexual.

If your boyfriend constantly puts you down or criticizes your clothes or comments – or forces you to do things you don’t want to do sexually — that’s abusive.

Is someone abusing you? Take a look at these “red flags” and see what you think.

When someone REALLY cares about you!   You would be saying NO to everything on this list.   Read the signs.

Abuse can be verbal, emotional, or sexual.

Does your boyfriend – or girlfriend…

  1. Act in ways that scare you?
  2. Get angry or jealous when you talk to – or want to do things with – other people?
  3. Put you down, call you names, or criticize you?
  4. Try to control where you go, what you wear, or what you do?
  5. Constantly call or text you?
  6. Controls your money
  7. Punishes you by withholding affections
  8. Blame you if he hurts you or your feelings?
  9. Threaten to hurt you or himself if you break up with him?
  10. Constantly accuse you of flirting or cheating on him?
  11. Damaged property when angry?
  12. Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place?
  13. Scared you by driving recklessly?
  14. Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
  15. Try to force you to have sex – or do sexual things – you’re not comfortable doing?
  16. Hit, slap, push, kick or restrain you?

If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, chances are you’re dealing with abuse.

Please call our free, confidential helpline at 1.877.890.7788 . We’re here to listen and help you think through your situation, not judge your choices.